How To Make Your Move Easier on Your
People generally have two kinds of needs during a home purchase. First
are the transactional needs, such as searching for a home, obtaining financing,
negotiating the terms of purchase, completing paperwork and legal documents,
and arranging the move. The second are emotional needs that are involved
in a home purchase, which can be where the most stress occurs in a home
purchase. The following are just a handful of tips to help you and your
family ease the stress of moving.
· Prepare your children
Although you may have lived in your current residence for just a few years,
the same few years can be half the lifetime of a seven- or eight-year-old,
and can include all the years he or she can remember. Your current residence
may be the only home your children have ever known, where they feel safe
and comfortable. It may be the center of your childrens' world.
Be sure to announce the move in a completely positive way. You might talk
about how beautiful the neighborhood is and how good the schools are.
Bring your children to the new house, if you live close enough that it
is possible to do so. Otherwise, positively describe the new house. Find
out what your children's favorite things are in your current home, and
then try to re-create them in the new home. Keep your children actively
involved in the process. For instance, don't just promise that they can
decorate their new rooms, but take them shopping for paint, bedspreads,
carpets, and other items that will make the experience more fun and comforting.
Your children are bound to have worries, fears, and sorrows during the
move. They may be moving away from friends and family they have known
their whole lives. Find ways to make parting pleasant. You can plan a
going-away party and let your children invite their own guests. Take pictures
of everyone and create a photo album. If your children are old enough,
allow them to take pictures of the neighborhood that they will want to
· Gain knowledge
You may feel a sense of being out of control, as though other parties
to the purchase transaction are running the show and you're merely getting
in their way. Your mortgage company, the appraiser, the inspector, and
the seller all have certain powers to approve or disapprove of your overall
plan to purchase this home and move successfully. This is certainly not
Although this can feel stressful, one of the best things you can do for
your own peace of mind is to understand as much of the purchase process
as possible. Your Realtor® will be able to prepare you for unknowns
ahead of time and tie down loose ends as soon as possible.
· Trust the process
There can be so much to do that it's easy to panic. It may feel like you're
taking a big risk, but the truth is that you're initiating a big opportunity
for you and your family. Even though you can't predict what will happen
every step of the way, your Realtor® helps people buy and sell homes
as a profession! Your Realtor® has been there before and understands
that this is a major upheaval in your life. Trust that your Realtor®
is looking out for you on your way to a successful closing and move.
· Be flexible
Knowing that your Realtor® will do everything possible to prepare
you for the various processes involved in your home purchase, and will
tie up those loose ends quickly and efficiently, it's important for you
to remember that there is no such thing as a perfect world. The property
inspection may reveal areas of concern, or closing may be delayed for
some reason. Try to take a deep breath and be flexible in your thinking.
You will have a much greater chance of making your decisions based on
logic and not high emotion.
· Seek entertainment
Whenever you feel that things are spinning out of control, find a diversion!
Take a walk around your new neighborhood, go on a day trip out of town
with your family, or take your family to a movie. Whatever diversion or
outlet works best for you, this is a good time to engage in it! Remember
to take one "move" at a time.